Author
Julie Tofilon
Have you ever been in a situation where your anger controlled you instead of you controlling your anger? We assume this means an explosive expression of physical violence or verbal volcanic outburst. But what about angry withdrawal– fuming, muttering under… Continue Reading →
We’ve all known someone who feels they’ve been placed on this planet to dominate others. We see them in pre-school, telling other kids who can have what toy. Later, they end up as someone’s lab partner in high-school chemistry… Continue Reading →
Have you ever sought anything wholeheartedly? Not casually, not on and off, not halfheartedly, not even like it really mattered but not enough to give up something you thought was better. WHOLE-heartedly—as in, “I won’t rest until I find/achieve/gain…!” (whatever… Continue Reading →
In a world where many believe that graciousness is too “soft” for leaders, I’m here to tell you the opposite— Gracious leaders are loved leaders. Loved leaders are FOLLOWED leaders. If no one is following, we’re not leading. Sure, we… Continue Reading →
Ever wish you could have some peace and quiet? Or, if you can’t have the quiet, at least have some peace? It reminds me of Wugui [“woo-gway”]—that old tortoise/former master in Kung Fu Panda, sitting in the lotus position on… Continue Reading →
Good leaders are able to mobilize their team to get the jobs done. Great leaders do that while creating an environment of psychological safety and trust. Without this, no one will take the risk of speaking up. If no one… Continue Reading →
Wouldn’t we all love to wait for God alone—as in, not have to wait in traffic, or at the doctor’s office, or for our kids to get dressed to go wherever they/we all need to, etc.? Unfortunately, we still have… Continue Reading →
ALL IT TAKES TO TURN A NEGATIVE “BEFORE” INTO A POSITIVE “AFTER” IS SOMETHING LIFE-GIVING Take this plant, for example– classic “Before” and “After” situation– –Droopy and woebegone before… –Perked up and cheery-looking after What made the difference? WATER! Good… Continue Reading →
Some time ago I made a “scientific” discovery: The rate of change and forward movement is directly related to the level of motivation. While this may not qualify as a law of physics, it does apply to human and animal… Continue Reading →
Trust the Lord, it’s in His hands! I can imagine some people’s response– “That sounds great, but in the meantime, what’s my responsibility and what can, or should I do?” Especially if you’re a leader, and people are depending on… Continue Reading →
Why does fear matter? Because whatever we fear governs our life and thoughts. Here are examples of the more common fears and their implications: 1. If we fear rejection, we will always be worried about whether we’re pleasing people or… Continue Reading →
Have you ever wondered, “How do I know if the Lord is speaking to me?” Or, similarly, “How do I recognize the voice of God?”—as opposed to your own thoughts, the devil disguising himself as an “angel of light”, or… Continue Reading →
It’s so easy for our own selfishness and pride to get in the way of someone else’s selfishness and pride, and when they cross, it produces friction. Especially when both refuse to budge. In relational “science”, we could call this… Continue Reading →
We’ve all heard the expression, “Work smarter, not harder.” Of course this doesn’t mean be as lazy as we can get away with being. That would develop a bad attitude and work ethic in general. It would also not sit… Continue Reading →
IF WE WANT PEOPLE TO GET CLOSE TO US, WE HAVE TO BE APPROACHABLE! Does this house look welcoming? What do you think it says about the people who live there? We often walk past here, and for 3 years,… Continue Reading →
