We are designed to live in community. The first book of the Bible makes it clear that it is not good to live in isolation,

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18)

The New Testament is replete with many examples of our need for one another. Many people are looking for a meaningful connection with others, but they end up frustrated. We do not need to settle for dysfunctional relationships with people who make us feel inadequate or condemned.

We must also be cautious of gravitating toward relationships or activities that simply make us feel good. This may involve pursuing fantasies and addictive behaviors. We need to connect with others where we can be who God created us to be. True friendship is formed when you can be real and authentic with others who accept you as you are. We need relationships that are open and honest and both parties are mutually invested in one another. You can share openly and honestly with others since the relationship is based upon mutual trust.

We are created to do life together and we see that people grow spiritually when they are connected relationally. It’s been said, “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go with others.” If you want to go the distance, then you need others in your life. Solomon points out the benefits of teamwork,

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. (Ecclesiastes 4:9)

He enumerates the benefits in the following verses,

For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? (Ecclesiastes 4:10-11)

When I read this verse, I recall a camping trip with my family when one evening the temperature dropped significantly. We slept close to one another to conserve heat and stay warm. The Talmud says, “A man without a companion is like a left hand without the right.” We need others if we are to accomplish great things. Two are better than one and three are better than two,

And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. (Ecclesiastes 4:12)

The three strands are woven together to provide strength but if the cord is untwisted then the separate strands are easily broken. The key is remaining together. We are to be united, but unity does not demand uniformity. A true friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you as you are. Who is walking with you in your journey through life?

Associate Pastor – Discipleship.  The Church at LifePark

Professor of Discipleship, Columbia International University

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